How did you meet you Prince Charming?
Our love story is a simple one that was initiated through a friend of mine and my fiancé’s niece. Through their friendship our love journey was sparked and as they say…..the rest is history.
How did Nzuzo propose to you?
Two years later, under the assumption that I was planning his 30th birthday celebration I happily went about planning the perfect evening for him, making sure that our close family and friends were there to share this special moment with him.
On the night the guests started to arrive and the celebrations proceeded. Closer to the end of the night his sister requested him to say his vote of thanks to the guests but before doing that she asked that I stand up next to him so that she could take a photo of us. As I stood next to him, about to strike a pose, he did the unexpected….went down on one knee and popped the question, leaving me in an emotional but amazing daze. He pulled out the bling and the celebrations continued……..
And then followed the beautiful, well planned Traditional wedding….
Tells us about the planning of the traditional wedding…
Planning my traditional wedding was truly an amazing experience, being a Pedi woman I knew that my Pedi people really love great celebrations so I knew it would be a memorable day. But what was even more exciting for me was the complimentary fusion of two cultures that would take place on the day as he is Zulu. So all I envisioned for the day was loads of dancing and bright colours to compliment the joyous celebration in true African tradition. To further extend the fusion of cultures concept I also had my bridesmaids dressed in their different cultured attire and the groomsmen were in Swati attire to accommodate the Swati side of his family.
Soon to follow is the White Wedding…What theme do you have in mind?
With the traditional wedding now behind us and the white wedding ahead of us I must still say there’s nothing more incredible than an African Traditional Wedding celebration. We do still hope to capture and extend that African celebratory spirit with our “Sophiatown” themed white wedding.
Blushing Makoti Says..
Congratulations to Nzuzo and Mankoana, I loved the theme Fusion of Culture, this really makes me proud of being a real African woman. This was a well planned wedding, different and amazing….
Can’t wait to see your beautiful White Wedding themed Sophiatown, Blushing Makoti will be there to capture Mankoana’s creative out of the box idea’s. All the best to our beautiful Zulu Makoti….Alililili….
Got this from Marriage Mission website: www.marriegaemission.com , visit the website for more reads on marriage.
Not sure how easy the below points will be for you to practice/work on, but very sure that I have read this about 10o times in the past 5 years but still trying to work on point 3, and wondering when I will move on to point 4, if its taken me this long to practice number 3 and i am still working on it.
Marriage is a blessing they say, I define marriage as a 24 hrs – 365 days job, non stop. Dont get me wrong, marriage is a wonderful thing but they are just those days when you feel like you are seating on a two plate hot stove switched to number 5, the highest heat, and no one is there to cool it off for you or with you. Those are the days when f ** & b words are in your vocab and you remember point number 1 by that time its too late, you have said a month full. The next day you make a resolution which leads you to start from point number 1.
Enjoy reading and practising the below on your partner. Be patient with yourself, even if it takes you 20 years eventually you will get to point 100.
1. Respectfully communicate with him.
2. Let him know he’s important to you.
3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings—even when you disagree with him.
4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trust-worthy.
5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
6. Tell him you both love him AND like him.
7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. (D Ramsey)
8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
9. Be tender with him realizing he has feelings also.
10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust.
12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems—have fun instead.
13. Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives.
14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
15. Give him special time with you apart from the children.
16. The first minutes after a spouse comes home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience. (Ease into the negative.)
17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be much more enjoyable. (Dave Ramsey)
18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
19. Compliment him often.
20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.
21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.
22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.
24. Find ways to show him you need him.
25. Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)
26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7).
28. Respect his desire to do well—not his performance.
29. Rub his feet or neck, or scratch his back after a hard day.
30. Take time for the two of you to sit and talk calmly (schedule it when necessary).
31. Initiate going out on romantic outings (when he’s not tired).
32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.
33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy.
34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.
35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is (giving him specific reasons).
36. Give advice in a loving way — not in a nagging or belittling way.
37. Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home (without “lording” it over him).
38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not so tired when he wants you sexually.
39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities.
40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.
41. Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family.
42. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there.
43. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired—so he isn’t “flooded” by too many words.
44. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.
45. Honor him in front of the children (differ respectfully in private when necessary).
46. Give him time to unwind for a little while after he comes home from work.
47. Get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to and pray with him (you can go back to bed afterward, if possible —it’s a sacrifice worth making.)
48. Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense he needs it.
49. Participate in shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him (like watching a movie and such) without talking. Sometimes men just like to BE with you and not talk.
50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it.
51. When your husband is in a bad mood give him time to recover. Don’t crowd him.
52. Help him to finish his goals, hobbies, or education when your see he needs it.
53. Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: “Handle With Care.”
54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him.
55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. Thank him for things he’s done around the house. (It means a lot to men).
58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord.”
59. Make sure he agrees with everything important that you’re planning to do.
60. Do little things for him—let him sleep in, bring him coffee, etc.
61. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words with him.
62. Initiate sex periodically. And respond more often.
63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off work without having to “work” at home.
64. Get to the point in your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them.
65. Discover his sexual needs.
66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function.
68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he mis-speaks.
69. Don’t quarrel over words.
70. Be kind and courteous with him. (Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him.)
71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better.
72. As a kindness, don’t say, “I told you so.”
73. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
74. Take him out on dates—pre-planning all of the details ahead of time.
75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public.
76. Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones.
77. Tell him you love him more often.
78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case.
79. Sit with him while he’s watching TV—even if the program doesn’t interest you.
80. Don’t expect him to read your mind (despite your thinking he should— extend grace).
81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone.
82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff, when possible.
83. Work to keep yourself in shape in every way.
84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words. Remember to “speak the truth in LOVE.”
86. Don’t criticize him in front of others—keeping his dignity in tact.
87. Visit his childhood home with him.
88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment.
89. Pray for him.
90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.
91. Look your best—dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you.
92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.
93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.
94. Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
95. Cheer his successes whether in business or in other areas of everyday living.
96. Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
97. Give him coupons to redeem—maybe for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.
98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.
99. Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
100. Thank him for just being himself.
Source: Marriage Mission
Ohhh My! this wedding pics have left me breathless, amazing pictures…
South African/Mzansi weddings are getting more flamboyant. The latest wedding trend is the bride or groom arriving in a chopper…I wonder what next… I am impressed.
This wedding is every woman dream…
Blushing Makoti wishes Mr ad Mrs Sthe Gcaba a happy and peaceful marriage.
Its important for all brides to wear comfortable shoes on their wedding day. .
I have always believed that the killer thorns (painful high heels) are best to be worn on the day you have alot on your mind, or are stressed, depressed, in denial, heart broken or just going through something that you want to take off your mind, I find they help me forget all my problems, no matter how big it maybe, because I concentrate so much on the pain my feet are going through and that makes me forget about all the problems. Killer thorns are best for those days or when I want to impress or should I say dress to kill to impress, take them off after everyone has seen them.
Most beautiful, wow shoes are mostly killer thorns, that makes me wanna cry. But the best que on the day you are wearing killer thorns is to make sure, you are going to a sit down occasion.
I dont want do concentrate on the pain on my wedding day and be very uncomfortable, look for any available seat each and every time i move around. My wedding day is all about me, I need to enjoy every minute of it, i need to be very comfortable.
I think every bride needs to wear a comfortable shoe.
Its been about 3 months that I have been searching for my fairy tale wedding dresses, I know in my head what I want for my special day but I havent been able to find a design that matches my dream dress, after speaking to some of my friends and colleagues, one of them said, she is just waiting for her mr right to propose, because she is ready, she has had her wedding dress design in her mind and drew it up ever since she was a child. What got me more frustrated was she wasnt the only one, three of them said almost the same thing.
Okay, here am I still struggling to get my special dress, I recently browsed most of the websites, but still havent found that dress that makes me tick, the one that I picture myself in when I am day dreaming of my special day as i walk down the Isle, what’s more challenging is that my mom was a wedding dress designer, until she decided to explore other opportunities within the industry. I watched brides and brides maids coming in and out of my parents home to do their wedding dress fittings, trying to loose weight, the excitement in their eyes, then the final day which is the day of the wedding, since my mom was the designer she had to be there to dress the bride. So why havent I been able to find my fairy tale wedding dress, is it because I am being to selective? Or is it because I want a dress that is stylish, trendy, go with my personality, suit me and make me the most beautiful bride.
As young as 7 years, I was looking though the 500 page bridal magazines and even thought my mom will design my dress when grow up and get married one day, but here I am still trying to find ‘thee perfect wedding dress”. All I know is that one of the dresses will be a one shoulder dress, bling, white, fish tale and the other one will be a ball gown style wedding dress with a long trail, for the third dress I am still undecided, again it will depend on what is in fashion – so it will have to be knee-length dress. I am to have two to three dresses and all two or three must have bling and the Olivia touch or signature to them. Anyone that knows me, knows the kind of dress I am talking about. OTT is my middle name.
I thought I would share some of the latest wedding dresses that I came across, for more wedding dresses ideas visit www.tidebuy.com they have a huge range of stunning and breath-taking wedding dresses.
If you know of a gifted designer near you, please send me their contact details to firstname.lastname@example.org so that I can include the designs on Blushing Makoti.
Zanele Mbokazi or should I say the fashionista, the author, the show maker or the preacher, or the business woman. All I can say is she is blessed and is one of the top women that inspires me to go an extra mile.
What a well planned wedding, from the bride to decor and not to mention the vintage-royal theme and colors. I loved everything about this wedding. The brides wedding gown, took my breath away. I must say I take my hat off to the wedding planners and Zanele the Fashionista, indeed she is a woman with style…Her wedding is every woman’s fairy tale dream
I wanted to share some pictures from the net and friends, including Zanele Mbokazi’s website: www.zanelembokazi.com
I have always admired the Kardashian family, it reminds me of my sisters, the Modisakeng girls every meeting occasion, especially if we havent seen each other for a while, its dress to kill time. We go all out to be the best dressed, we dont mind even going over the top or being OTT, we love it. When we meet we check each other out with smiles in our faces, approving of each others outfits, we will spend the first hour just admiring each other and finding where what was bought where and how we can get it. My mom enjoys this, and coaches each of us separatly, from hair to the shoes..
My favourite lady is Kim Kardashian, every new purchase i make whether its shoes, a dress or pants, before i go to the mall i need to google Kim’s latest oufits. If you think i am obsessed about Kim Kardashian, you got it wrong my younger sister Sessie, never goes out for a function without wearing something similar to Kim’s published outfits. She has a gallery of all her outfits…Any oufit idea’s, she goes to her gallery.
Then we heard that Kim Kardashian is getting married, we all looked forward to each and every detail about her wedding, from the decor to her shoe. I even lost count of all the dresses she wore in one day, i think its about three. I loved everything about her wedding, especially her veil and dresses. Now that something i will be looking for, a veil with diamantes and a fish tail dress. My mom will showly approve of the shape of the dress, anything fish tail, she likes. Definetly Kim is a lady with swagga. Now all the family is talking about is my wedding, and we looking for ideas from our fashion icon, Kim Kardashian.
I just thought i would share this video and pics i found on You Tube and the net.